In this country with strong familial values, moving out of the house is considered a bold decision, and having your place on your own is perceived as having a sad life. However, that is not the case, and we will tell you why.
Moving out and into your private place may seem like a hard thing at first, but it’s easier than it looks. Sure, there are some hiccups along the way, or it will not be worth it, because as the saying goes, life is only precious because there are hardships. You’re an adult now, you now have the liberty to choose a life that you will live, and no one can tell you not to.
If you want to save money for a condo near the capital instead of staying at home, then so be it. If you are already an adult and you are still hindered by traditional and old-school parents, you must realize that it is you who is holding yourself back, and not them.
So if you are determined to move out and start on your own, here are some tips:
1. Write down everything that drives you.
Knowing why you want to move out offers you a purpose and a reminder that your future is now in your hands. You feel ready and powerful, and that feels good.
Recognizing why you desired this freedom and documenting it on paper will remind you why you want it when you need a push. It isn’t something you feel like you have to do, but instead, it is something you intended to do, and also wanting to do it is what makes it so fulfilling. So, when you finally overcome these early chapter pages, you will be reminded of what started this journey and take you to a new height of inspiration to keep going.
2. Live one day at a time.
Focusing is not a mere thing; it is a skill. Focus leads to a flow state of determination to get up and get things done. It also affects the way you feel. So, when you are finally living alone, try closing your eyes and focus on a time when you were really down. Imagine a time and place in your life that you wanted to give up, remember how you felt, and remember enough details and information to be at the moment.
Take yourself back to a point in your life when you wished for things to get better, and when you open your eyes, take a look at your private place, at your condo. Now, what do you feel? Appreciative. That’s it, don’t forget to take a pause once in a while to pat yourself at the back. Living alone requires determination and, most especially, financial responsibility.
When you break down your tasks and chores right into smaller bits, you are making them more manageable in your head. Since you are focusing on one task at a time, you will naturally feel confident and see yourself move toward your end goal quickly.
You can apply that in living alone and setting goals. If you have many goals to achieve, break them down into categories. Yes, a timeline can work as well, but you have to be careful as timelines can cause pressure instead. The wonderful thing is that focus boosts your confidence, eradicating the stress and anxiety of having to do everything by yourself.
3. Write your own fate and make decisions.
Be the change you want to see in the world.
A big part of living an independent life means owning your choices and seeing where everything goes. Even if other people around you are doing things that you do not understand, you can very well adjust or say no. Remember that you moved out to be your own person, so making decisions based on others is a step backward. You are an adult, and you must not wait for any of them to make changes for you.
Decide on things that you feel are necessary to you, whether your parents agree or not. Focus on the possibilities that you need to grow. Collect experiences for self-fulfilment. Focus on what you desire, as well as do something to reach these goals. With your own ingenuity and determination, nothing can stop you but you.
The earlier you take the helm of your ship, the better. Be the captain of your ship instead of waiting for others (your parents) to make your life much better. Remember it is you, giving yourself the power to choose the life you want to live. While you might choose to be dependent on your folks’ financial capacity, for the time being, having that choice places you as a spectator of your own life. Your choice.
